Do you love the mother you are? I know that there are many (far too many) days when I don’t. Some days I yell, get too loud, have my own temper tantrum or just generally lose the threads holding myself together. But you know what? It happens. I’m human. So are you. And so are the little ones that run our lives. They love the mother you are… you should too.
Love the Mother you are
There is only one you – and there will only ever be one you. YOU are what your children need – just you, in all your wonderful, possibly messed up glory. There are a billion plus moms out there, yet YOU are the one blessed with your children, and they are the ones blessed with you. That means something.
Breastfeeding mom?
Formula feeding mom?
Stay at home mom?
Work outside the home mom?
Work from home mom?
Love the mother you are.
Bake everything from scratch mom?
Allergic to baking and all things cooking mom?
Get on the floor and play all day mom?
Determined to foster self-directed play mom?
Parks and walks all day mom?
Puzzles and coloring book mom?
Soccer mom?
PTA mom?
Can’t breathe mom?
Scout leader mom?
Wish you could do more with less mom?
Love the mother you are.
I could go on and on… there are a million/billion types of moms and a million/billion types of kids who need us. They need what we are, who we are and the mothers we are. Judging ourselves does no one any good, no matter how natural and mundanely normal that may be.
I don’t know a single mother, myself included, who doesn’t think that they could be doing better. We ALL have bad days and moments when tempers rule, but honestly… aren’t we all just doing the best that we can? I am not saying that we shouldn’t strive to BE better or that self-improvement isn’t a goal we should all strive for…. but there are limits to the depth of incriminations we fall to. Mothers tend to align with teenagers in one clear and definable way – we feel everything, deeply. Especially our own faults.
In the end… we are all mothers.
The mommy wars hold nothing compared to the arrows we sling at ourselves. I’m right there too. I want to be calmer, have more patience, play more, bake more, be more attentive…. all of it and more. And I am trying to attain those goals, a little bit more everyday – but that shouldn’t stop me from loving the mother I am… right now.
It takes all kinds to make a world and it takes all kinds of mothers to raise the kids in it. YOU are what your kids need.
Love the mother you are.
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